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The Sample Registration Survey Report, stated that the highest of single women living independently across India are from South India. In fact, the reports showed that there were almost are twice as many single women in Kerala and Tamil Nadu who live alone, as compared to those across other states in India. The single women referred to in the report range from unmarried, to widows, to divorcees and the ones living separately. So what is it like to be a single woman in the southern part of the country?
What kind of challenges do these women have to deal with, and what encourages so many women in southern India to embrace singlehood? SheThePeople reached out to many single women from the region, all over the age of thirty, to know about their experiences of living alone, without having to depend on any male member in the household. Pushpa Preeyais a scribe for disabled students, a social activist and a volunteer, based in Bangalore. She says that being single helped her understand and appreciate her independence.
I am single at this moment and the sole bread-winner for my family. If you really look, there is politics everywhere, and living as a single woman is not very easy. It has been a struggle, but I have stood strong and Single ladies India care of everything single-handedly. The main thing I appreciate about being single is that it has enabled me to love myself more.
And that is because I see self-care and happiness as my responsibility too. Pushpa, who started working before she was 18 years old, has tried her hand at various employments, from working at garment shops to STD booths to reception services and small industries. I did not receive any support from relatives or friends.
Ruam Mukherjeea single woman working as a PR Manager at an organisation in Bangalore, shares that being independent requires a strong mindset, one that is easier said than done. Mukherjee recalls how a few years back, she ended up Single ladies India a series of ugly situations because of a manipulative friend who mislead her and how it finally led to her quitting the job.
But that phase taught me that not everyone is a friend and wrong career advice can land one in a soup. As single women, we need to be careful about our career choices and whom we seek advice from. After all, not all advice is well-meant. It also taught me to trust my own ability and instinct much more. Laxmiwho works at a primary school in Chennai separated from her husband a few years back due to personal reasons. I have faced many difficulties in life, but the toughest of them that I had to face, came from society.
Laxmi says that as a single mother, you just have to realise that the day-to-day life is going to be a circus, for lack of a better phrase. Even if I want to run errands, I have to take the child along. It becomes difficult to find time for self-care. When I was married, I felt that I needed to take care of everyone, and do it all by myself.
Divya is a divorcee, working at an IT company in Bangalore. When I came to Bangalore a couple of months ago, the city was new to me. As a single woman, finding a place to stay was the hardest part. I had to work till and then take an Single ladies India to search for apartments and PGs.
As a single woman travelling, I did use to get scared during the night. Cabs are risky. We read so many news of rapes and molestations in big cities during the night. At those moments too, I have often felt that a companion or a partner could have made me feel safer perhaps. But then once I actually settled down and became more comfortable with my surroundings, those thoughts vanished away. And you can live your life the way you want. We were raised to think that once you grow up you have to get married. That you will need a man.
Back home, I have seen my mom asking for permission to go anywhere from the male members in the family. Women have to ask their husbands or the brothers to take them to places. But times have changed. Till this date, single women in India face a lot of judgment and discrimination, and things are far from easy for them. Perhaps other cities from across the country can also take inspiration from South Indian states, and do their bit in supporting such women as much as they can.
Dyuti Gupta has writen this piece for SheThePeople. What's going on Time to Question Film Dialogues?Single ladies India
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